parenting cornerstones.

RESPECT: Be kind to others, tell the truth, use your voice for good, create positive relationships, eat well, sleep well, love yourself, be brave, lead.

RESPONSIBILITY: Say please and thank you, make eye contact, work hard, value what you have, bask in gratitude, honor your family, set high standards, engage, sweat, think.

LIVE FULLY: Have fun, play, go outside, be silly, be willing to make mistakes, create, imagine, be curious, seek, serve, give back.

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02/11/2015

I want them to find their footing high in a tree, understanding what is certain and safe is up to them, that their bodies will tell them the truth if they are brave enough to listen.

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08/26/2015

A Collection of True Statements From Parents About Technology ...

09/07/2015

Fully present in the everyday, watching as shoe sizes change and hair grows longer and bodies stretch and teeth are lost and come again, but time still sneaks up and bites. I thought by the simple ...

07/30/2015

One way we can eliminate the struggle around technology, is to actually enjoy it! How fabulous would it feel if our devices kept us connected, deepened our relationships and were a tool for creativ...

  • Fully present in the everyday, watching as shoe sizes change and hair grows longer and bodies stretch and teeth are lost and come again, but time still sneaks up and bites. I thought by the simple and gracious act of noticing, I would have the power to slow it down. But somehow, it keeps going faster.

  • A Collection of True Statements From Parents About Technology

  • One way we can eliminate the struggle around technology, is to actually enjoy it! How fabulous would it feel if our devices kept us connected, deepened our relationships and were a tool for creativity and family fun?

  • Have you ever wondered what middle schoolers have to say about technology? Have you wanted access to their thoughts and feelings and beliefs around the device culture? Do you want to talk to your middle schooler about technology, but aren't sure where to begin? Well, I've been taking notes just for you!

  • irules

    Even though it can seem simple or even obvious, Slow Tech iRules are truly life-changers when we apply them to the everydayness of our existence. These, I know for sure, are rules we must live by.

  • Parent Tech Tip

    A list of rules to help you talk to your teens about sexting.

  • Parenting

    But underneath all of this life we are living, all of this life we are trying so damn hard to get right, my love for you runs steady and unchanging. And even in the messy notes, the corners of my mind, and my infinite offerings on how to live fully, my love for you is the only thing I know for sure.

  • Instagram iRules

    Instagram iRules for Beginners -- with some help from my 12 year old son.

  • Parent TechTip

    I'm noticing a slow down in the use of Twitter, Instagram & teens. So, where are they? it's all about Snapchat right now!....

  • iRule Tip

    Watching the sun set against our children’s backs while they squeal in delight and dig in the earth and look into each other’s eyes and figure out how to stop those damn waves from crashing down their tower — is the point.

  • iRule Tip

    If you have an open mind and like a challenge, Device Free Days or even a Slow Tech Summer can actually be fun! But if you aren’t prepared to take on days or weeks without technology as a family, start small!

  • BLOG

    As we begin to define balance in our homes, we must first have a foundation of communication. With our partners, caregivers, and children, we must always rely heavily on discussion. It is in these conversations that we teach and understand our family values and intentions

  • I sprinkle our family time with these breaks from technology, from the tired routines, from the force that so constantly drives us. It's a great emptying, a letting go of all that we hold -- likes and shares, lists and tasks, striving and achieving.

  • Blog

    a contract created with the help of fourth grade students and their teachers during our recent “tech talk”. This is a sample letter to parents used to communicate the classroom discussions around technology and initiatives.

  • Blog

    I find freedom in the moments I would have forced a picture, "smile - stay still - stop it - cooperate". Instead, we capture the moments that feel really special and call them "mind pictures"

  • Video

    My TEDx Talk video is live -- the title is "Parenting in the Screen Age". Have a look.

  • PARENT TECH TIP

    Now is a perfect time to take a "Tech Inventory".

  • SlowTech

    How to SlowTech yourself in 2014 and onward....

  • Ask Janell

    Dear Janell,

    Is my child ready for the newest tech gift? Should I get him the latest gadget this holiday season?

    Thanks,
    Holiday Parent

  • Ask Janell

    Dear Janell,

    No porn? Seriously? You want it or not, your son is going to masturbate like any other human being and you don’t even let him watch porn to maximize the experience? The other rules you wrote just show you are a douche mother.

    Unsigned

  • Video Clip

    Here is a video clip of the Good Morning America interview I did with Gregory when the iPhone contract first came out!

  • IRULES BLOG

    This video is at the root of the Slow Tech Movement. Use technology with purpose! But I must say, I am so guilty of the "scroll to nowhere" when I have a few minutes.

  • iRules Contract

    Dear Gregory, Merry Christmas! You are now the proud owner of an iPhone. Hot Damn! You are a good and responsible 13-year-old boy and you deserve this gift. But with the acceptance of this present comes rules and regulations. Please read through the following contract. I hope that you understand it is my job to raise you into a well rounded, healthy young man that can function...

    http://www.janellburleyhofmann.com/the-contract/

Fully present in the everyday, watching as shoe sizes change and hair grows longer and bodies stretch and teeth are lost and come again, but time still sneaks up and bites. I thought by the simple and gracious act of noticing, I would have the power to slow it down. But somehow, it keeps going faster.

A Collection of True Statements From Parents About Technology